Way back when women always used to report higher levels of happiness than men. That was before the majority of women had jobs and were then expected to juggle work, look after kids, managing the family and the kids’ diary (the child-related admin being one of the most time consuming and thankless tasks that no one even knows you’re actually doing), the cooking and any other chores around the house. No wonder you’re exhausted! So, here’s a question for you: If you could wave a magic wand, would you want things to be different? No ‘yes, buts’ and ‘what ifs’. Just a yes or no.

Let’s imagine that change is possible in one or more areas of your life and your health, will things change on their own? Who is the only person who can make change possible? Again, no ‘yes, buts’. It’s you. Only you can change things but you must choose to do so.

Change is a choice. You may not be able to change everything and have it just the way you want it, but you have to start somewhere. The job now is to make a choice right now as to whether you are prepared to keep going as you are now. Or whether you will commit to change. There is a caveat. Whichever of these you choose, you have to be satisfied with your choice.

If you don’t want to make changes, that’s OK, but you are then a victim of your life (sorry to be all dramatic). If you want to move more quickly to the light at the end of the never-ending tunnel of child rearing, choose change.

What will you change?